Millie Bobby Brown and now Billie Eilish are two underage girls who say Drake (a whole 32-years-old) texts them. This is troublesome. Something we should maybe sit up/pay attention to. Like...now. As opposed to later when we usually do, lamenting "we should have paid attention"
Friend breakups (I mean good, longterm, very close and intimate friendships) are, in my experience, much more emotionally devastating than romantic breakups. And yet, unlike romantic relationships, we have almost no socialization (even in media images) on how to navigate them.
And a baker's job is to bake. And a county clerk's job is to issue marriage licenses to people who legally qualify for them...do you see where the fuck I'm going with this?
Halle Berry thanked her manager Vincent Cirrincione tearfully from the Oscar stage, calling him a father figure. When she learned he had been sexually abusing women in the industry, her denouncment of him was public, swift, unambiguous and in vociferous support of his victims.
It's so fucked up that we're conditioned to accept that an employee quitting without notice is bad form while an employer firing an employee without notice is just fine. Even though in the former situation, the employer will likely not suffer and in the latter the employee will.
On “I Survived” all the men’s stories are like…bear attack. Or “I was trapped in an avalanche.” And all the women’s stories are like “I was doing a mundane thing I do every day and a casual male acquaintance I thought was cool stabbed me 10 times and shoved me into a ravine.”
A law had to be passed in order for Black people to be able to wear their hair as it naturally grows out of their scalp. In 2019. I just want everyone to stop and consider this for a moment.
Me thinking about how folks literally want us to eat insects to save the planet and live in a sleeping bag in an 80-person loft rather than make Jeff Bezos pay taxes:
You know what’s romantic ? Knowing how HIV is spread in 2019, that it can’t be spread through a manicure, that a “screenshot” doesn’t trounce medical science and that empathy/kindness doesn’t include spreading misinformation about an already stigmatized condition. Swoon❤️
This is how you leverage privilege for good. You speak up. You're mindful that the consequences of speaking up are not as grave as they are for people with less privilege. You make other equally privileged peers uncomfortable. This all may sound unpleasant. The work sometimes is.
Which was probably (I’m sure) very personally difficult and a working/interpersonal relationship she had to mourn. And Halle Berry did it anyway. Because that’s what standing by victims when you say you do looks like.
I long for an industry where an actress brimming with this much raw talent, incredibly adept at internal psychology, subtext, layering several emotional reactions at once in a way that feels like (I said it before. I meant it.) 70s-era Rowlands level intensity is given her due.
Jackée gave great speech at the Emmys 33 years ago. I love her "I wonder if I get paid more money for this" at the end. But the thing is...for white actors winning major industry awards like this, they almost always do. Any other actors? Not really. Still. Today. 33 years later.
I actually don’t need to hear audio of Louis CK making fun of the Parkland survivors and trans people. It’s about to be a new year. I think I’ll leave Louis CK behind in 2018 and that’s where he can stay forever.
Ladies, if he:
-pops that gum one more time...
-can’t hold his arsenic...
-ran into your knife. He ran into your knife ten times...
He’s not your man. He had it coming. He only had himself to blame.
It’s unpleasant. It’s difficult. It’s something hopefully none of us ever have to deal with, but unfortunately some of us will. It’s all of those things. But please don’t act like the answer to “what do you do when you find out someone in your life is an abuser?” is unknowable.
Many Black folks surely wish we’d had confidence as younger people to refuse to accept white apologies for words/behavior that were ultimately unacceptable. And to be ungracious. No white apology is entitled to our acceptance. No white apologizer is entitled to our grace. Period.
But there’s none of that with friend breakups. What you have with each friend is unique. Functions uniquely. Doesn’t follow a “this is what it basically looks like” framework the way romantic relationships do. It’s losing something that, even in the abstract, feels irreplaceable.
Eurasian bullfinch: Take the picture
Photographer: You have crumbs all over your face.
Eurasian bullfinch: All of me or none of me. Take the goddamn picture.
White people, not only is your “setting aside differences” with bigoted white conservatives you’re friends with not heartwarming/aspirational. It’s harmful. It’s a huge reason for this current moment. Your failure to hold each other accountable re: bigotry has stoked all of this.
A white lesbian named Ellen who’s actually about some shit, understands systems of oppression and advocates for her community. We’ve never had this before, but I’ll take it. Kudos, Ms. Page.
You know, we could have more dramatic turnarounds like this(and not just for rich white people, may we all live and be well) if we shifted our societal framing of how we view/respond to addiction. Just sayin...
How time flies. Robert Downey Jr used to be a drug addict since he was just 6 years old and from 1996 through 2001, Downey was arrested numerous times on charges related to drugs. But look at him now, one of the most successful actor ever. The legend, RDJ.
This would be the same MOONLIGHT that made back 4x its budget at the box office despite being an R-rated independent film with a limited theater run and then won Best Picture at the Academy Awards? That MOONLIGHT?
I’m the same age as Drake. I don’t even have a desire to text teenagers I’m related to. He’s such a fucking creep and he’s practically daring us to give a shit with the behavior he’s letting us see out in the open.
Millie Bobby Brown and now Billie Eilish are two underage girls who say Drake (a whole 32-years-old) texts them. This is troublesome. Something we should maybe sit up/pay attention to. Like...now. As opposed to later when we usually do, lamenting "we should have paid attention"
\Berry, a survivor of abuse herself, knows the deal. She knows the fact that he never did it to her isn't the point. She knows it's not necessary to say because we'd have heard if she was among the accusers. And she knows what is tacitly implied in "well, he never did it to me."
I also appreciate that Berry rebuked him for, as she saw it (correctly, I'd say) using her as body armor to lure impressionable young women of color looking for inroads into acting. What she *didn't* say was "well, he never did it to me." Perfect. Clear.
One of my favorite bits of music trivia is that you can hear Minnie Riperton singing "Maya, Maya, Maya, Maya..." at the end of unedited album version (and some live performances) of "Lovin' You?" Because she originally wrote the melody as a lullaby for Maya Rudolph, her daughter.
Tarana Burke, a Black a civil rights activist started the
#MeToo
movement in 2006. When you ask this question, you erase her, her work and all of the women of color who did the work for over a decade in the
#MeToo
movement, long before 2017 when Argento publicly accused Weinstein
Millie Bobby Brown and now Billie Eilish are two underage girls who say Drake (a whole 32-years-old) texts them. This is troublesome. Something we should maybe sit up/pay attention to. Like...now. As opposed to later when we usually do, lamenting "we should have paid attention"
He threatened to hurt her, returned and was circling the restaurant. This is in Oklahoma, a state with "stand your ground" similar to FL, which were key to George Zimmerman's defense and acquittal when he killed Trayvon Martin. We will hear crickets from his supporters on this.
What’s your favorite audience reaction at the theater during a movie. Mine is the woman in her 60s(?) who shouted “OH MY GOD, SHE’S PREGNANT!” during CAROL in a scene where Therese is vomiting.
I love how men talk about how Lori Harvey being “community property”because she dates, but not a word about fast-tailed Common who’s like an order of onion rings before a meal. Just out here for everyone. For the whole table. The double standard is obvious but still ridiculous.
Remember when Buffy had sex with with Angel and he lost his soul and went on a murdering rampage? And she said to Giles “you must be so disappointed with me” and he actively refused to shame her? We stan Rupert Giles, our sex positive surrogate father.
And it makes you so dismissive of the men. “I crashed my tiny little plane in Alaska and got stranded.” Well who the hell told you to fly a tiny plane by yourself in Alaska? For what?
What is the reason? This woman had her throat slit at her gas station job. Get out of here.
With romantic relationships, whether this is healthy or not, there is the hope (however remote) of finding another person where you can enrich each other’s lives in that very unambiguous, modeled through societal messaging way romantic relationships function.
In addition to the whole "what if it was your mother, your sister, your daughter? your wife?" rhetoric being reductive and gross, it underestimates how terribly and inhumanely a lot of men treat their mothers, their sisters, their daughters and their wives.
When people say "history will not be kind" re: all of these white supremacist Republicans, I kind of think they don't know...well, history. American history as we're taught it routinely rehabilitates/repackages the legacies of white racists and turns them into heroes.
Ellen Page’s “no, actually I *won’t* take my foot off your neck” attitude when it comes to holding folks accountable re: anti-LGBTQ+ bigotry is the energy I’m trying to keep.
I'm just saying...look at the entire inventory of facts we have at our disposal, use your brains and employ some common sense. In every situation. Because she's not wrong. Mind you, she didn't say that anyone is guilty of anything. She said what she said. And she's not wrong.
The 40-hour workweek is closer to 50% or your *waking* hours. Studies have also shown that it’s *less* productive than a 32-week and has severely detrimental cumulative affects on bodily health and emotional health. People defend the 40-hour work week because they’re used to it.
So many white liberals think their friendships with white conservatives are heartwarming examples of agreeing to disagree. I see a white person whose views negate my full humanity. And another wwho says they disagree, but doesn’t really care because they have no skin in the game.
US makes me think of all the Lupita Nyong'o led movies we could have had between 2013 (her breakout year) and now had Hollywood not had its head up its ass. Seriously, it's ridiculous it took this long for us to get a movie with her as a top-billed lead. And she delivers.
I meant “worrisome” not troublesome. I was today years old when I found out that troublesome doesn’t mean what I thought it meant all these years. It’s definitely not a strong enough word in this context
Millie Bobby Brown and now Billie Eilish are two underage girls who say Drake (a whole 32-years-old) texts them. This is troublesome. Something we should maybe sit up/pay attention to. Like...now. As opposed to later when we usually do, lamenting "we should have paid attention"
If y’all hadn’t slept on WIDOWS and let it tank at the box office, you’d have a nice .gif in your mind of Viola Davis shooting Liam Neeson to go along with your outrage right now.
There was one episode where it was a woman surviving nature/circumstance. Lost at sea. But that was sort of surviving a man too because her male friend who got eaten by sharks is the one who accidentally set fire to the boat they were on…this show is a bummer. Good morning.
(And when the men are talking about surviving another person, it’s a man they’re as well. And if it’s a couple who survived some deranged man together, most of the time it was the Angela Lansbury looking wife who got the survival plan in gear. Just some stray observations…)
Those are two genres of music white people try to claim as theirs. Of their invention. And they police Black artists and fans alike who come into those spaces. When they should be on their knees thanking us. We own your history that you try to write us out of. You’re welcome.
“Cancel culture” (as an apocryphal rhetorical concept) is the newest member of the same family that includes “reverse racism,” “misandry” and heterophobia is that it:
A. Isn’t real
B. Factually distorts power dynamics to favor the sympathies of those in power
Still baffled by the decision to age Malinda Williams down to play a high schooler in THE WOOD only to have her character as an adult played by...Sanaa Lathan(?!) Who’s around the same age. Who decided this? What kind of brown liquor were they drinking? And how much of it?
Gaspar Noé walked out of BLACK PANTHER after 20 minutes because he "hates R&B music" and I seriously have white people in my mentions saying this has nothing to do with anti-blackness. Man...European exceptionalism is a hell of a fucking drug.
Two weeks notice. The societal programming that says it's proper etiquette for employees to give two weeks notice to an employer, but not the other way around is a scam.
Non-Black POC, you can (and should) advocate for representation and shine without waiting until Black people get something and then tacitly framing it as “why do they get this, but we don’t?”
ethos of a lot of white people globally when it comes to Black people is “prove you deserve to live here.” And by “here” they mean Earth. “Prove you deserve to be alive. Show me.” That’s what a lot of y’all are constantly telling us, directly and indirectly. That’s the message.
Keith David. I’ve been thinking he’s one of those talented character actors who’s been working for decades/has worked with everyone and is therefore a perfect candidate for that kind of JK Simmons Best Supporting Actor industry sweep if the right role/project ever comes along…
Now that I'm the same age as Lorelai was when "Gilmore Girls" started airing, I call total bullshit on the whole "I got a job as an inn maid at 17 with a baby, no high school diploma, worked my way up, I'm the executive manager now, I own a house before 30" science fiction story.
Can we talk for a moment about how we need money to live, yet we’re scolded by employers (both prospective and current) when we ask questions and behave in such a way that shows we care about how we’re compensated? I have a story. Like to hear it? Here it go.
I know her Oscar nomination came as somewhat of a surprise (she wasn't nominated at any other major awards that year) and I know opinion on this movie then *and* now is split (to say the least) but...Toni Collette was robbed of that Oscar. She deserved to win walking away.