As woman who has cooked and cleaned and cared for my husband and children full-time for over 25 years, I’ll tell you this: My husband has NEVER once told it’s “my duty” or that I am obligated as a wife to do these things. In fact… just the opposite -
Men on twitter: Women hit the wall in their 30s.
Same men: Why do my marriages fail. 70 percent of women file for divorce.
I thought marriage was ‘till death. 🤔🫠🤣
Men on twitter: get married and have a whole bunch of kids. Don’t help your wife with the housework. Be stoic. Focus on “your mission” above your wife. Focus on your fitness and your bros first and formost.
Also men on twitter: why do women initiate 70% of the divorces? 🤔🧐
He can cook and clean for himself.
She can provide for herself.
Marriage is not about doing things for one another because the other is incapable or needy or demanding or childish.
Marriage about serving one another in love. It’s about putting one another above self.♥️
Can someone on this app please explain to me why you think marriage is hard?
I’ve been for married for 27 years and I don’t understand how marriage is hard.
Sometimes life can be hard, but marriage makes life beautiful.
Sitting in my warm car at the gas station while husband pumps gas.
I look over to my right.. one guy is putting air in his tires while his wife sits their car. I look over to my left.. one guy is checking his oil while his wife sits in their car. 🥹🤧
I love men. ❤️
Masculinity is a beautiful thing and it needs to be nurtured.. femininity does that.
Femininity is a beautiful thing and it needs to be protected… masculinity does that.
❤️
Everybody wants to “fall in love.” 😍
But
Very few want to commit to loving somebody for a lifetime.
Love is not something you “fall into.”
Love is something you do. And keep on doing. And keep on doing.
And keep on doing.
❤️
I always knew he’d love me just as much even if we didn’t have kids, even if I worked outside the home, even if I didn’t cook him dinner, even if I didn’t clean the house.
So, all this to say: Young ladies please don’t settle for these creepy trad guys. You deserve much better!
My husband is ALWAYS offering to help out around the house and trying to lighten my load. He’s always so appreciative everyday when I make breakfast, lunch and dinner.. and is so incredibly grateful that I cared for the kids all day when he was at work (when they were little).
@creation247
Stop it!! Dolly Parton can wear whatever she wants.
Plus she’s been married longer than most. If her husband is happy.. why does it even matter to you!?
These young people today insist on marrying “a man who is financially stable” OR “a woman who is a good cook.”
I don’t get it!
Why not grow together?
Why not learn together as you go?
Marriage is about growth.
Do it together.
Don’t wait & miss out on all the fun stuff!
Moms got 6-8 weeks off after having a baby when we were young mothers. Now young moms are crying because 12 weeks is not enough. Some countries give mom 12 months off after birth. No amount of maternity leave will satisfy your natural desire to be at home nurturing your children.
If I was ever tired or felt overwhelmed he always come to my rescue.
None of this..“that’s your job, woman” stuff. Honestly, I’d NEVER want to be a traditional stay at home wife/mom if I thought for one second it was anything like the “trads” on twitter. That stuff is abusive.
There was no “woman age like spoiled milk.”Or “women hit the wall at a certain age.” I NEVER felt rushed to have kids. I NEVER felt bullied into staying at home. I NEVER became less valuable to him after I birthed our children. I’m fact…
People on twitter seem to have thing against single moms.. not understanding that for every single mom there is a single dad too. Single dads are not better than single moms. Moms just more often stick around to raise the child while it’s more common for the dad to abandon.
A husband does not “love his wife & lay his life down” because his wife insists he does it.
A wife does not “submit to her husband” because her husband insists she does it.
These things come from a desire to serve God and serve others.
You can’t force it upon somebody!
Some married men won’t prioritize date night, rarely plan romantic get-aways, neglect to buy their wife flowers regularly, refuse to help with the house & kids, engage with sexy women on the internet… and then they wonder why their sex-life is suffering.
🧐
When I speak about my husband, I never want it to come across as boasting. I want young women to know that good men exist and that having an amazing husband is not some sort of fairytale.. it’s real life.
“She must have long hair. She must be a good cook. She must be under 30 years old.”
“He must be tall. He must be rich.”
Stop searching for the most shallow characteristics on earth and search for a virtuous person instead.
35 year old “men” on twitter berating & objectifying women.. meanwhile, 22 year old young men are rejecting social media, discussing theology, getting married & speaking out against porn... Y’all are not ready for generation Z. 😂😂
Some people think that a “high value man” is a man who makes a lot of money. But some of our sweetest years of marriage were in our apartment and our first little house, budgeting everything & hardly ever going on vacation. Don’t miss out on the good stuff because of your greed.
Masculinity is not toxic.
Masculinity serves a beautiful purpose
and that purpose is to lead, love, serve and protect.
If you know anyone who is masculine you know this is true.
Men being unkind to feminist women will rarely persuade feminist women to be more feminine.. in fact, it most likely will persuade them to cling more tightly to their feminist ways.
It also leads more would be feminine women into feminism.
Happy International Men’s Day!
You build
You create
You protect
You provide
You love
You lead
You open doors
Your kindness, toughness, grit, hard work and determination is a gift to us all. Thank you for being you!❤️💪🏼
#InternationalMensDay
#HappyInternationalMensDay
It has come to my attention that the reason so many of these trad men don’t want women to go to work is because they don’t want her to have any money if they divorce.
They think if “he earned it,” it should be his if they split.
This is exactly why alimony is needed.
A lot of men will not lift a finger at home to help his wife.
A lot of men insist on doing the dishes for his wife after she’s had a long day caring for her babies.
Get to know a man before you decide to marry him & have babies with him.
You’ll thank me for this advice later.
Ladies:
if he is not loving, joyful, peaceful, patient, kind, gentle, good, faithful & self-controlled he is not the one.
Know what qualities to look for in a man.
The fruit of the Spirit is a good place to start.
Ladies, when looking for a husband, it’s good be picky. You deserve to be treated like a princess. You deserve to loved and respected and cherished. You deserve to be loved like Christ loved his church.
Please settle for anything less than that!
An abusive man will say “God does not permit divorce” while at the same time treating his wife harshly.
Dude, God does not permit you to be unkind or harsh to your wife!
Every single time that I tell a woman that I don’t work, she says: “OMG! You’re so lucky!”
Where do we get the idea that most women want to work outside the home? All the ladies I know who work outside the home are just waiting for the day they don’t have to.
Every man I’ve ever met in real life:
Women, keep your head on a swivel. Be very careful when walking alone especially in parking lots.
Men on twitter:
Women, you so are dumb to worry about your safety while walking alone in parking lots.
“Get all dressed up to please your husband.”
Serious question. Does your husband really ever think you DON’T look good? 🧐😅
•pretty dress & makeup = beautiful to him.
•yoga pants & old t-shirt & no makeup = beautiful to him.
•bathrobe & bedhead = beautiful to him.
🥰
@realthoughtsfem
It breaks my heart that these thoughts would even go through a young woman’s mind.. I can’t even imagine the people in my life waiting a “certain amount of time” to respond to text on purpose. How sad! This young generation will suffer when it comes to real life relationships.💔
Twitter manosphere will try to convince women that abuse inside of marriage is very rare.
But the more I see the stuff they post on twitter the more I see just how common it is. 💔😥
Don’t idolize marriage.
You’ll end up jumping ship when the hard times come along.
Marriage is all about loving one another during the difficult times, or else it’s just a short term fling.
@UnbiasedKatie
Dear Men:
Thank you for holding the door open for women. This implies that you believe women are valuable and worthy of honor and respect.
Thank God that real men don’t change the way they behave towards women.. even though some women say crazy things.
♥️💪🏼
Miley Cyrus has a new song out called Flowers and it breaks my heart. Ladies, why buy your own Flowers and hold your own hand? When a loving man could do all that for you..
Let him love you! ❤️
Kids playing ball in the street.
Little boy falls down and gets hurt.
A girl: stops playing *hugs him* “Oh No!! Are you okay? Do you need help?”
A boy: “GET UP!! We need you in this game!”
The beautiful difference between a girl & a boy. 🤣
Both reactions are healthy & needed.
Ladies,
consider this - what if cooking the meals, keeping the home, rocking the babies, loving the difficult ones, listening to the lonely ones, & taking care of this sick ones was really the most important work all along?
🏡🌷
So many young people today think they need a great career(need to make lots of money) before they’ll be ready to get married.
I want to encourage you..
Don’t miss out on the little apartment together, the hand me down furniture, the learning to save for something special.
Everybody wants to fall in love, it’s beautiful! But treating one another with unconditional love & the utmost respect, & putting the needs of your spouse above your own needs, year after year after year? That’s the part that a lot of newlyweds don’t plan for.
Bad men often create single mothers.
Then they sit back and belittle the good men who step up to protect that woman and child.
Good men protect women and children.
Bad men abandon them.
My friend: I worked at a bank before I became a mother. I got 6 weeks off when I had my baby. When maternity leave was over I called the bank in tears and quit. I didn’t know how we’d survive w/o my paycheck, but I knew I could not leave my baby. We survived.
In real life men are so protective of women.
In the twitter universe men bully women.
Does anyone else notice this?
Where are these guys in real life.. hidden?
I feel like they’d get their butts kicked by other men in their real life, no?
Maybe I live in a bubble. 🤷🏻♀️😅
@MattWalshBlog
Matt Walsh: I like it when my wife cooks dinner.
Twitter: Well, a lot of abusive husbands want wives to cook them dinner also.. therefore, Matt Walsh is probably an abusive husband.
I heard this “first date” story:
Girl goes into the bathroom at the restaurant to freshen up. She leaned forward & flung her head back(trying to create more volume in her hair). She accidentally hit her head on the counter.
Don’t ever criticize the stay at home wife/mother.
She is often the one we can count on to.. influence the children, care for the hurting, rock the babies, drive the carpools, prep the meals, help the neighbors, etc.
Let’s take the time honor each person for the work they do.💝
When a society laughs off divorce like it’s just some sort of joke,
a society crumbles.
I don’t care if you are a famous celebrity or a humble housewife. Divorce is destructive.
The smartest thing a young women can do on a first date (first few dates) is to listen and observe.
•How does he speak to you?
•Is he generous and kind?
•Does he hold the door and the chair?
•Does he treat you (& others) with respect?
@LiveAction
@LilaGraceRose
@DrPhil
These women wants rights for themselves but not for innocent children in the womb. How can they not see their hypocrisy? Woman’s rights begin in the womb(men’s rights begin there also).
Them: I don’t need no man.
Me: I am free to fill my days with all the things that bring me joy all day every day because I have a man that I can depend on.
#Thankful
❤️
Too many “men” in the mansophere are complaining on twitter about how woman aren’t “making sandwiches.”
Are these guys even married?
Dear men, I promise you this: if you stop complaining about women, get married & treat your wife amazingly, you’ll never lack sandwiches. 😅
@adarathexplorer
Love this!!🥰 We do this with our daughter. She’s 22. She lives at home and works part time… takes college classes when she wants to… volunteers at her church. It’s important to us that she knows she should be taken care of.❤️
The girl who doesn’t trust men and doesn’t want to get married is often the same girl that wants to get married and trust her husband after he proves to her that he can be trusted.
It’s the SAME GIRL. 🤍
A day in the life of a stay at home wife:
•Wake up
•Coffee
•Bible
•Laundry
•Breakfast
•Walk with mom & sis
•Vacuum
•Lunch
•Prep for dinner(for my husband)
•Nap
•Bubble bath
•Shower
•Dinner with girlfriends
•Relax with husband 🥰
Whatcha doing today?
Some women get online and complain about their husband.. and all I can think about is how amazing my husband is.
I am so incredibly blessed!
This man has given me the sweetest life.. so much more love than I could have ever dreamed of.
Moral of the story: don’t think you and/or your date needs to be perfect & flawless. Most often it’s how people deal with real life craziness that makes them the most attractive.
@Babygravy9
Why does it bother people that someone wants to improve their looks? She’s probably happily married, living her best life, while miserable people on the internet are putting her down for likes.🤷🏻♀️