mum. wife to
@dreamershxtel
. neurodivergent.⚡️business babe by day, artist by night. dv survivor. fan of plus size sustainable style, earrings + cats (she/her)
So after 19 years of struggling, my mum has finally admitted she’s an alcoholic & she’s going to an AA meeting tomorrow. Usually I’d share this privately, but I am in floods & beyond proud of her for finally doing something about it. This is huge. It truly is a Christmas miracle!
I was the first in my family to gain a degree. I’ll be the first to gain a master’s degree too. Here’s to living in poverty, from a broken home, moving around, falling pregnant at 16, working for pennies & still doing OK. I have big dreams to hopefully achieve a PhD one day too🤞
In 1979 I divorced an abusive man, left a lovely home to live in a run down council flat with my 2 young girls. Had help with rent. Worked full time and a 2nd job. No benefits and I wasn't depressed 🤔😆
Ex no.1 used to cheat on me & said I had saggy boobs because I lost weight.
Ex no.2 used to beat me, cheat on me & call me fat.
Ex no.3 used to sponge off me & said I ‘let myself go’ because of my weight & anxieties.
I don’t need a man & 1 day I’ll show you pr*cks how fab I am.
PIP was taken off me when I had my review, after informing them I’d also been diagnosed with autism and arthritis (after struggling with both quietly for years) alongside bipolar disorder. It was still taken away, even though these conditions will never fade, and I had evidence.
3 weeks ago my mum finally acknowledged she was an alcoholic after 19 years. 3 weeks later, she’s still sober & more determined than ever; going to many meetings a week, losing weight, checking her apps, having therapy & facing her traumas etc. I’m the proudest daughter ever ❤️
A rapist is a rapist. It doesn’t matter if they are your relative, friend, lover, neighbour etc, they’re still a rapist. And it doesn’t matter on the victim’s appearance, how they were dressed, how they seemed beforehand etc.
If you support a rapist, you’re a rape apologist.
I came from a broken home, I’m mentally ill and fell pregnant (on the pill) at 16 y/o. I still did my GCSEs, A-Levels and became the first in my family to complete uni. I gained a 2.1 degree in 2 subjects and I’m studying a master’s degree. Never doubt yourself! Prove them wrong.
A nurse on
#ThisMorning
is currently crying on the phone, explaining her anxiety over working on a covid ward every single day. What a hero. I wish the people who believe this virus is a hoax would listen to this, maybe they’d see some sense. It’s truly broken my heart.
2 more assignments to do and I’ll have finished my first year of my master’s degree! Not bad for a pregnant teen that was told she wouldn’t even sit her GCSEs and wouldn’t amount to anything 🤷♀️
After the recent news involving Katie Price and her assault, it’s very clear that a lot of ‘men’ think it’s fine to joke about domestic violence. There’s no excuse for domestic abuse - and making jokes makes you just as bad. We still have such a long way to go, it’s very scary.
I’ve been told I preach about mental health too much. This may be true but is it really that much of a bad thing? I know too many people that have lost their lives to suicide. I also know even more that suffer with poor mental health on the daily. It’s important to talk about it.
Bipolar disorder and BPD (borderline personality disorder) are not the same. As infuriating as it might be to correct someone, we need patience to educate.
If I manage to get and go for this mental health job with the NHS, they said they’d want me to progress. So much so I could go to uni again (all paid for) to study MH nursing: I’d have 2 degrees and a master’s degree. And I LOVE learning. I don’t want to get my hope up but 😅🤞
For someone that’s had a break from education for 4 years, suffers with severe mental health issues, is trying to juggle motherhood & bills, changed to a different course from my undergrad & almost quit not too long ago, I’ve only gone & passed my first master’s degree assignment
So this has popped off a little.
Nothing to promote (just incase I miss anyone) other than -
donate to food banks. donate to charities. shop sustainably. fuck the Tories. ✌️
So disgusting when I see women dressed like prostitutes in the gym. You don’t have to wear spandex and yoga pants, there’s plenty other clothing.
I shouldn’t have to feel like I’m in a strip club when I’m just trying to work on my health. It’s annoying.
Well no shit Sherlock, us poor people already knew about the cheapo versions. And guess what? They taste like shit but we eat them anyway because it’s all we can afford.
AND GUESS WHAT? We’re still in a cost of living crisis. Now what?
COST OF LIVING CRISIS?(left to right… 45p, 27p, £1.60p). Beans don’t have to mean HEINZ. Look beyond the expensive packaging and Krafty brand advertising that makes shareholders rich. We did. All delicious on toast!
Have we thought about being much less of a bellend?
What a sad little life you must lead to make such nasty comments & try to do this for clout, says a lot about you already. She’s just living her best, happy & fantastic life.
People hate bigger people for existing, weirdos✌️
You see a fat person working out at the gym, you insult them. You see a fat person eating, you insult them. You see a fat person merely existing, and you insult them. Fatphobia is literally everywhere, we can’t do shit.
Received my PIP letter after having a renewal. Apparently now I’m not entitled to it after receiving it previously. Ofc, there’s nothing but lies on it. After including my latest arthritis & autism diagnoses too. I’ve appealed before and I will again, but I’m still devastated.
So I’ve been unfollowed a lot recently and I imagine it’s because of how much I talk about mental health, motherhood and probably stupid stuff I do. I’m not going to stop - I’m going to keep on raising awareness, spreading love and being real. Sorry not sorry 💖
3 years ago I almost ended my life bc I couldn’t see a future, I felt like a failure of a parent & a person. I had no job, no life, I was stuck in an abusive relationship etc. Now I have a happy son, a loving boyf & I start a new job & master’s degree next month. It gets better✨
If it wasn’t for the NHS I’d have neither of my parents. My mum was in a severe car crash when I was 8 and had multiple complications & blood clots whereas my dad’s bowel burst a few years ago. Thankyou NHS for all that you do!
Eh when I fell pregnant at 16 everybody told me/assumed I wouldn’t get anywhere in life. Now I’m pretty smug with my undergrad degree, dream job, studying a master’s degree, my flat & a healthy son (and I’m allowed to be!)
PROVE THEM WRONG AND BE SMUG. YOU DESERVE THE PRAISE 😘
I remember when I fell pregnant and so many people told me I’d amount to nothing and threatened my baby. Guess who got GCSEs, great A-Levels, gained a 2:1 degree in TWO subjects & is now filling in a scholarship application for a MSc? All while bringing up a happy, healthy boy 🖕
I passed probation 😭😭😭 which means I’m doing okay 😭😭😭😭 which also means a pay rise 😭😭😭😭😭 which also also means I made the right decision to change my career 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Just to clarify: I do not like nor do I support the royals lol. Just saying, don’t insult people by their appearance and/or conditions/disabilities, especially as it can hurt other people. It’s not cool. You look like a twat.
Just dropping by to say:
We met on Twitter, we did in fact call / video call almost every day beforehand, we met in rl several months later, we made it official, we now live together & we’re very real. Oh & we literally just took this photo. Twitter drama is too much. Goodnight x
Is it just me or do most girls born in the 90’s have a middle name of Louise, Marie, Elizabeth or Ann/e?
(Nobody @ me, my middle name is one of these too 💀)
3 weeks sober, 3 months without coffee (although I have had a cup of tea here and there!) and 3 years SH free and no longer craving any of it. Not to blow my own trumpet but I think I’m smashing it? I want to scream it from the rooftops 💪
Italy deserved to win because England fans do not deserve it. The England team are amazing but the fans are not. The amount of violence, racism, hatred etc I’ve already seen is absolutely disgusting. So many people are going to feel frightened, get hurt & worse tonight. So scary.
V scared to post this. I hate my body. However, I’m trying to embrace myself more. Love myself more. Etc. I’m not a dress type of person, I’m not even a dress UP type of person. I’m a v self conscious person actually. Scribbled my face bc I’m not happy with it.
But I am trying.
I was very happy to see the postman this morning, although I don’t think he shared my enthusiasm. Here’s a few of my latest book haul: each book cost less than £3 from an eBay account that’s recycling books. Some I’ve read but not owned and some I haven’t. I’m in book heaven 📚
I did my wedding makeup 👰♀️
Pls be kind, my heart is beating so fast. I don’t really wear much makeup so this is A LOT for me - and I’m no makeup expert either.
Oh & my perfume (a rainbow Olympea dupe 🏳️🌈) also arrived & it smells beautiful, it’s definitely one of my favourites 🥺
From
16, pregnant, alone & severely mentally unwell, struggling on benefits
to
28, with a happy preteen, engaged, studying a master’s degree, still unwell (coping A LOT better), with an NHS job (& being interviewed for higher band NHS job/s)
Never underestimate teen parents
If you didn’t grow up in poverty, please don’t act like you did to.. ‘fit in’? It’s really insulting. You can support basic human rights etc like everyone else but don’t act like you ‘get it’. It’s cool, you grew up around money, no one’s gonna judge you for that.
Tired of being judged and viewed differently because I’m almost 30 y/o and don’t drive. I can’t afford lessons (and have no one to help me out), I can’t afford a car & I have major anxiety behind the wheel. It’s not that difficult to grasp and it’s not anybody else’s business tbh
Received a letter from my kid’s high school about attendance. The expected attendance is 96%, he’s at 93% (due to having covid 3 times & I gave him ONE mh day). He’s never had a detention, gains good grades, good behaviour etc.
Not only is it ableist, but it’s wasting resources.
@brothius
Dear Lord, what a sad little life, Commis. You ruined my night completely so you could have the money & I hope now you can spend it on lessons in grace & decorum. Because you’ve all the grace of a reversing dump truck without any tyres on as you’re intimidated by successful women
I don’t think I’m anyone’s no.1 best best friend and it kinda sucks. I find it hard to make and keep friends, especially groups sometimes. It would be nice to feel a part of something. I always try to better myself but it all makes me question myself as a person a lot.
Friends meant so much to many of us, Chandler especially for his humour & strength of overcoming commitment issues by finding love within his circle. Friends is the comfort show you may need/ed when you feel alone. Thank you for making us feel less alone w laughter, Matthew Perry
Why do people hate on fat people for simply just existing??? Genuinely, we’re just trying to live our lives like everybody else. I mean, why are people so fatphobic that they feel they HAVE to be so nasty to another human being just for living their best authentic self? So upset.
TW. ED.
5 years worth of smaller clothes, total of 40 minutes to clear, and a couple of meltdowns, but I’ve finally let my past go. No more making myself poorly to fit a dangerous weight. All these clothes are being donated & I feel somewhat free. So grateful for my bf’s help 🖤
@AndileGaruba
@TheChrisWoodard
Excuse me but I had a baby at 16 years old. Started renting a house since he was born & I’ve been through education (got myself a degree & now studying a master’s degree) all whilst working throughout it. Thankyou & goodnight, don’t let your judgy comments hit you on the way out.
Sad how I had a baby at 16 y/o and everyone doubted my ability to be a mother as well as do well in life. Now I have a happy 11 y/o, nice home, nice job, engaged to a nice man and studying my master’s degree. I refused to be a statistic and prove everybody wrong. I did THAT. 🤷♀️💗
So I’ve officially sent off my scholarship application for my master’s degree in mental health. Pls pls pls send positive vibes and have your fingers crossed for me lovelies 😱🤞🎓
Waited 20 years to see Evanescence. They’re who I came here for. It was packed, dangerous & scary bc, not only has Download proper fucked up their stages (& loads more), people have no consideration for the disabled. Absolutely devastated. I cried as soon as I got somewhere safe.
I know not everybody agrees with medication for their mental health (each to their own) but I started taking all of mine again about 10 days ago (I stopped taking them for months due to a bad episode) and I feel like I have a fresh look on life, as if a dark cloud has lifted? Mad
Being a fat girl in this world is pretty hard tbh. No matter how much I dopamine dress, the more confidence I gain & how much my ‘fuck it’ attitude is embraced, there’s always going to be nastiness, stigma & fatphobia. And hatred towards us just for existing. I’m tired, my dudes.
Noah: “Why do you wear makeup?”
Me: “Because I’m ugly.”
Noah: “No, you’re not! You’re beautiful just the way you are.”
My son is such a sweet little boy. I needed to hear that today 🥺💚
Hi Twitter friends, my therapist brought something up very interesting that I didn’t realise I didn’t have until today. How many of you have a ‘safe person’ and who are they? Not a relative or partner.
Never usually post selfies but I’m trying to learn to love ME a little more because right now, I don’t feel so gr8 about myself. (And posting these scare me) but here’s a just taken, no filter, chubby cheeks and ready to get drunk (at home) with
@MrDanielEdward
photo (or two!)
Been abused my whole life and I’ve finally found my little bubble of happiness & safety with my son and husband. I just want a quiet life now, there’s no harm in asking for or wanting that. I wish people would leave me alone.
After an awful morning, we decided to have an 🍂autumnal cleanse🍂 of the flat, which made me feel so much better. And during, I received a phone call. I ONLY WENT AND GOT THE BLOODY BAND 4 CRISIS SUPPORT WORKER JOB, DIDN’T I? Such nice news to receive the day before my birthday!
Women & girls are belittled, bullied, attacked, assaulted, abused, stalked, raped and/or murdered every day by men. Yet, men still cry that it’s “not all men” & make themselves the victim(s) every time. If you’re offended when we use our voices then that says a lot about you tbh.
Ok so remember, if you feel sad about this whole Tier & Christmas situation then LET YOURSELF BE SAD and do not let others dictate how you should feel. You don’t need to justify anything, you’re completely valid to have feelings. We’ve all had such an awful year with all of this.
If a second UK lockdown really is happening, don’t let anyone tell you how to feel - or make you feel bad for how you’re feeling. We’re all suffering in different ways & your feelings are valid. As cliché as it sounds, please be kind to one another & try not to turn on each other
I’m absolutely gobsmacked that I’ve just seen a tweet from someone declaring that bipolar disorder isn’t real. Do some people seriously believe that mental illnesses don’t exist? We’ve fought for too long and too hard for opinions like this 🤦♀️
You know what I really fucking hate? That healthier foods are more expensive than junk food. Don’t @ me, you’ll never convince me otherwise when a pack of vegan nuggets are £1.99 and you have to take out a whole fucking loan for a crate of strawberries.
It’s
#WorldMentalHealthDay
so that means everyone can pretend they care for a day, offer advice & an ear, tell people to be kind etc. The reality is I’m TIRED; tired of the fakeness, tired of lack of funding for MH services, tired of being mentally unstable, tired of meds.. Tired
Having to add (when I shouldn’t have to) that I do actually work full time lmao. Even if I didn’t, I should be entitled to it still. Work doesn’t equal your worth. And sorry if my disabled existence offends any of you, hope you have a nice evening anyways 💋
Today I accepted a job in a new career (OUT of mental health care & with lots of benefits!) and will start in Jan, and by the 22nd Dec I’ll have finished my 1st module for my master’s degree. I feel like I’m finally getting somewhere. Hopefully we can enjoy our quiet Christmas 🤞
When the pandemic hit, I had to make the hardest decision ever & send my son to his dad’s full time so that I could work & keep him safe. After 3 months/14 weeks/103 days apart, we’ve finally been reunited❤️ It was personal so I decided against a video. (Yes he has blue hair atm)
Working for the NHS in mental health can be rough. I only ever really see the negatives on here, which is completely understandable, but I do promise you that some of us are really trying our best. I’ve taken work home with me tonight, I can’t really switch off. We get upset too.
My bestie took this photo of me last night w her cat (Nougie’s a babe). At first, I picked it apart, particularly my weight. But you know what? I was having such a fab time after a crap week with my wonky brain that idc. There’s worse things to be than fat & memories are forever!
No heating for us this year then (done it many times before and will do it again). I dread to think how the rest of the country are going to cope with the doubled rise in energy prices. Simple answer is, they won’t.
I swear the only person that cares about us is Martin Lewis.