I've been seeing many of my lovely colleagues making frustrated posts about clients engaging in "carrot dangling" behaviour Here's a thread about WHAT carrot dangling is (in the context of the s3x industry) and how NOT to do it 🧵

Carrot dangling is when clients allude to or make explicit promises about future bookings, travel plans, or gifts that, for whatever reason, they are not able and/or willing to fulfil

However, not only is this naive and unrealistic, given that compatibility has not been established, it is more often than not used as a manipulation tactic. As many of us who have been in the industry long enough know, these guys almost never come back.

Clients may also discuss longer bookings (overnights, FMTY’s) they've had with other providers during the booking process or the booking itself. While this may or may not be factual information, it could be subconsciously used as a manipulation tactic to urge a provider...

to let their guard down, and to be on their best behaviour in hopes of cashing in on a similar experience. It's not only Timewasters—unfortunately even some of the best, most lucrative clients engage in carrot-dangling.

Clients often say things like “I need to see you sometime soon” or “would love to see you in x city” or even go so far as to discuss the details of bookings and FMTY’s but without confirming/ sending deposits/ or ever intending to actually book...

Wishful thinking is not a crime, however when you are involving another human whose livelihood is directly affected, it’s manipulation. So, beyond manipulation being unpleasant/unethical, why should you NOT do this?

Firstly, many providers can identify this behaviour from a mile away. We know that actions speak louder than words, and frankly, false promises are a HUGE turn-off.

While subconsciously, you may be intending to get closer to your companion, carrot-dangling can have the opposite effect and even bar you from seeing that companion in the future.

Keep in mind that if you, as a serious client, engage in carrot-dangling, you are unintentionally likening yourselves to the countless Timewasters who DO intend to do nothing more than disrespect us by wasting out time and energy in the pursuit of our attention.

We are very experienced in identifying these types of red flags and it may work as a mark against you. It might not seem logical as a "hard boundary" but you are not privy to our experiences, and you might find you've been suddenly cut off.

If this sounds harsh, be assured that we can usually tell if a person is well-intentioned or not. Everyone makes mistakes, life happens, and sometimes plans cannot go forward as initially desired. WE GET THAT!!

However, with that being said, please make every intention to make solid, realistic plans with us, and to carry through with what is being promised. Not only does it save everyone time, it proves to us that you are a trustworthy client of intention and action.

THIS is definitely the kind of behaviour that will guarantee you a great service and draw us closer to you!! It’s also a great exercise on how to treat people in general.

We know you’re excited. Companionship is a gift! Plan that FMTY, b0ok the girl! But please, before you do, take a deep breath and analyse whether it’s realistic and actionable. Once you are committed to the plan, reach out, and reap the rewards. You’ll have an amazing time

That's it, thanks for reading and honouring my downright refusal to ever get the blue check!! 🥰🫶

@angelicanoi Hahaha that one always made me laugh as I’m touring I’m not local ain’t getting a discount

@angelicanoi When I first started, I had a client low ball me and tell me if I give him a special price he will be my regular. He didn't see me again because I refused to do GHB with him.

@angelicanoi Had another one today tell me that he would become a regular and tjps well if I will see him. Lol