Our identities are important to us and also the community. Talking about the nuance of sex and romance and trying dismantling the harmful frameworks projected onto us like no other identity in this space does is really valuable. Our voices are worthy of being heard and uplifted.

"You dont need to come out as aroace no one would've known" . We dont come out based on how convenient it is for people around us. Our experiences are real and dont just go away if we dont talk about them. The validity of our identities isnt centered around the approval of others.

Asexuality and aromanticism have an incredible amount of political value that deserves to be acknowledged. With the way that amatonormativity is woven throughout various social structures, our experiences provide much needed perspective surrounding the nuance of connection.

This devalues our identities, labeling them as intrinsicly incomplete and perpetuates the allonormative idea that the prerequisite to fulfillment and maturity in relationships is inherently sexual activity, which isnt inclusive to everyone's experience and is overall very harmful.

"You're asexual? I feel sorry for your partners". Our identities aren't a burden or a sacrifice. Centering the quality of relationships around asexuality is incredibly othering. Partnerships with nuanced attraction can work, and sustaining that ace people aren't whole isn't okay.

It runs deeper than people online disliking us and even then, aphobia in online spaces shouldn't be dismissed. It isn't seen as deserving of attention despite being one of the many facets of prolonged discrimination. Aphobia is very real experience that hurts us and the community.

This framework actively harms aromantic, asexual, and aspec people while producing a dynamic that rewards being allo. The prioritization of these types of attractions over other ones creates a relationship hierarchy as well as a binary that lacks nuanced experiences.

Aphobia is ingrained in our society because allonormativity places such heavy emphasis on sexual and romantic attraction, subsequently follwed by action, in relation to maturity and fulfillment as well as perpetuating them as inherent to the human experience, which isnt inclusive.

Happiness and love aren't synonymous as they are presented and perpetuated by allonormativity. It's important to recognize the nuance in identity, as well as other forms of attraction that some of us do and don't experience. We are worthy of inclusion and consideration regardless.

"You're aromantic? But everyone needs love". Love isn't just romantic, but also centering someone's worth around how they interact with and articulate the idea of intimacy is incredibly othering. Being aromantic isn't a burden; we're whole, and our orientations are a part of that.

Friendly reminder not to ask intrusive questions about an asexual person's sex life just because they're ace. If you're trying to learn about how we navigate our relationships, there are appropriate ways to ask, but remember, we aren't obligated to share that personal information.

Recognizing aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities as valid means absolutely nothing if you actively refuse to include us in queer spaces and conversations.

Also, some aromantic and asexual people experience difficulty surrounding emotions or expression in relationships of any kind, and it's important to note that our worth shouldn't be centered around how we interact with intimacy and the ideas associated with it.

While it's possible we might express affection differently from what is socially considered normative by employing broader meanings to certain phrases and actions or choosing to not engage in what is generally expected of us, our relationships have weight to them.

To disregard the value of aromantic and asexual intimacy, and the nuances that come with it, is to be ignorant to varied social dynamics and perpetuate a hierarchical view of relationships established by harmful frameworks that aren't inclusive to everybody's experiences.

The idea that aroace people aren't worthy of that consideration is due to societal frameworks perpetuating certain experiences as normative, which aren't inclusive to everyone and pushes a narrative that we're actively our disappointing our partners, which is incredibly othering.

As an aroace person, I dont want someone who feels like being with me is a sacrifice. In the way that I respect unwavering priorities, I need an understanding of the impact my identity has on me. Everyone should get what they want out of relationships, including aroace people.

Queerplatonic relationships are often rejected because they dismantle the hierarchical view of partnership that's presented by amatonormativity. The idea that romantic love is an inherent priority isn't inclusive to everyone's experience, and it's important to acknowledge that.

While aromantic and asexual people can have healthy partnerships, centering our acceptance and quality of life around that idea does more harm than good. We are deserving of respect and inclusion regardless of how we interact with intimacy and the actions associated with it.

Aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities are necessary queer representation. We deserve as much consideration and uplifting as everyone else in the LGBTQ+ community does and our experiences being shown in media isn't stealing from other identities or queerbaiting.