I overcame 15+ years of porn & sex addiction, and saved my marriage. I coach men to Renew their Faith, Re-Energize their Families, & Restore their Masculinity.
I’m 33 years old
I spent my 20s on sex, porn, alcohol and physical pleasures.
Don’t waste your 20s.
Get fit, Get clean, Find your purpose, Find God.
Your 30s will thank you.
Finally got to watch the
@DiedSuddenly_
documentary.
As a licensed funeral director and embalmer, what they depict is 100% true.
I've been in the funeral business for 20 years, never seen anything like it.
Watch it.
I’m 36 years old
I spent my 20s on sex, porn, alcohol and physical pleasures.
Don’t waste your 20s.
Get fit, Get clean, Find your purpose, Find God.
Your 30s will thank you.
In 3 years I have:
-Quit Porn
-Lost 35 lbs
-Began Writing
-Founded A Blog
-Started Coaching
-Restored My Marriage
-Mentored Dozens of Men
-Created Multiple Income Streams
Don't ever tell me it's too late for you.
Get started now.
Old me:
Watch Porn everyday
Online hookups
Drink beer everyday
Eat terrible processed food
Never read my Bible or pray
Now:
Exercise daily, lift 4x/week
Lots of sex with my wife
Drink water all day
Eat clean, track calories/macros
Read my Bible & pray every night
Life changing
Christian men shouldn't have to go outside the Church to find the masculine guidance they need.
Yet, so many men are looking to Jordan Peterson, Andrew Tate, David Goggins, Jocko Willink and others.
They should be looking to their pastors.
Why aren't they???
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I’m 34 years old
I spent my 20s on sex, porn, alcohol and physical pleasures.
Don’t waste your 20s.
Get fit, Get clean, Find your purpose, Find God.
Your 30s will thank you.
Most men:
Drunk every weekend
Haven’t lifted since high school
Watch porn/jerk off daily
Eat processed garbage
Play video games to relax
Never have quiet time/mediation/prayer
Little sunlight
Never go to church
And then wonder why they’re depressed, anxious, & have no purpose
Most Men:
There’s no good women left
Also Most Men:
-Out of shape
-Addicted to Porn
-No purpose or mission
-Hangs out at sports bars
-Wouldn't know what to do with a good women if they found one.
There are good women out there,
They just aren’t attracted to weak men.
I spent my 20's on physical pleasures (Sex, Porn, Booze)
I've spent my 30's on fixing the damage.
Use your 20s to BUILD, not CONSUME.
Your 30s will thank you.
Think the seven deadly sins don’t exist in your life?
Have you examined your habits?
Lust - Porn
Gluttony - Overeating/Drinking
Greed - Credit Card Debt
Sloth - Netflix Binges
Wrath - Politics
Envy - Social Media
Pride - Gossip
-The first time at the gym is scary.
-The first time seeking help for addiction is frightening.
-The first time you talk to that girl is awkward.
-The first time you read the Bible and pray is weird.
But no one makes progress without being uncomfortable.
2 years ago I was lost
Now I’m found
2 years ago I was fat
Now I’m fit
2 years ago I was addicted
Now I’m free
2 years ago I was an absent father
Now I’m invested in my kids
2 years ago my marriage was crumbling
Now we’re stronger than ever
NEVER GIVE UP.
Most Men:
-Watch Porn
-Eat Like Crap
-Never Work Out
-Dress Like a Slob
-Rarely Go Outside
-No Close Friendships
-Drunk Every Weekend
No wonder so many men are lost.
People think Christian men must be “nice guys”
-Pushovers
-People pleasers
-Peacekeepers
Read the Bible. These men don’t exist.
Instead there are:
-Warriors
-Outlaws
-Fearless leaders
“Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. ACT LIKE MEN”
1 Cor. 16:13
Every morning & evening I do a quick mini-workout.
It's not a lot, but keeping it simple makes it easy to do every single day.
25 Pushups
25 Situps
25 Bodyweight Squats
25 Repeat one of the above
Small, consistent achievements make a big difference
Strong body, strong mind
PORN NEARLY DESTROYED MY LIFE
3 Years ago:
-Watched Porn Daily
-Cheated On My Wife
-Ignored My Kids
-Ruined Friendships
But Today:
-Live Porn Free
-Restored Marriage
-Engaged Father
-Living With Purpose
Here's the story of how I overcame porn and changed my life
{A THREAD}
Unpopular Opinion:
Your Wife and your Best Friend should be two different people.
They are uniquely different roles and should be fulfilled by two different people.
YOUR WIFE:
-Works
-Nags You
-Sweatpants
-Out of Shape
-Wine O'Clock
-Basically a Roommate
-Pity Sex on your Birthday
MY WIFE:
-Cooks
-Cleans
-Sensual
-Long Hair
-Wears Dresses
-Cares for the Kids
-Has Sex With Me Every Day
Difference?
My Masculinity allows her to be Feminine.
If all Porn ceased to exist:
-Sex would improve
-Anxiety would lessen
-Obesity would go down
-Depression would subside
-Violence would be reduced
-Marriages would be stronger
-Goals would be accomplished
-Sex Trafficking would plummet
-Erectile Dysfunction would decline
Sex is good.
Porn is Lust
Drinking is fine.
Drunkenness is sin
Eating is essential.
Overeating is gluttony
You must control your desires, or they will control you.
Somehow a woman staying home to care for HER home, HER children, and HER husband is a prison.
But being stuck in a cubicle 40 hours a week to make THEM money is empowering, freeing and glass shattering.
It’s hard to quit porn
It’s hard to work out
It’s hard to start a side hustle
It’s hard to resist temptation
It’s hard to do the little things day after day
But no one ever changed their life by only doing what was easy.
Old me:
Watch Porn
Online hookups
Drink beer everyday
Eat terrible processed food
Never read my Bible or pray
Now:
Exercise daily, lift 5x week
Lots of sex with my wife
Drink a gallon of water a day
Eat clean, track calories/macros
Read my Bible & pray every night
Life changing
Men,
Want your woman to look at you like my wife looks at me?
1. Quit watching porn
2. Be a leader
3. Get in shape
4. Keep her on her toes
5. Follow Jesus together
I used to:
-Drink beer Every Day
-Sit on my ass Every Day
-Watch porn/masturbate Every Day
-Eat junk food Every Day
Now I:
-Drink water Every Day
-Workout Every Day.
-Eat clean Every Day
-Read my Bible Every Day
I've never been healthier, stronger, purer, or happier.
Unpopular Opinion.
The church's refusal to discuss sex in any manner other than "wait until marriage" has caused more damage than it has ever prevented.
Because the Pastor's aren't appealing to the men the way those guys are.
Men don't want to be like the pastors they see.
Many pastors are fat, weak, and feminine. Their sermons are geared towards women. They're more like TED Talks than convicting, inspiring Bible messages.
LIES, LIES, and more LIES.
Porn has lied to an entire generation of men.
We've fallen for it hook, line, and sinker.
In order to break free,
Stop believing these 10 Lies about PORN.
A THREAD/
20's: Addicted
30's: Sober
20's: Fat
30's: Great Shape
20's: No Direction
30's Clear Purpose
20's: Broke
30's: Multiple Incomes
Don't waste your 20's
Use them to build a great life in your 30's
If your wife “wears the pants,” you are not being the leader you should be.
If your family goes to church without you, you are failing as the head of household.
If your children are fat, misbehaving, lazy brats, that’s not their fault, it’s yours.
It starts with YOU.
Men, want to change your life?
Get rid of these things:
-Porn
-Weed
-Junk Food
-Video Games
-Your Dad Bod
-24 Hour News
And ADD these things:
-Sex
-Journaling
-Meditation
-Good Sleep
-Lifting Weights
-Reading Books
Your life will never be the same again
Does your wife pick out your clothes?
Do you have to ask your wife’s permission before doing anything?
Does your wife have to know where you are every minute?
If so you don’t have a wife, you have a second mother.
Grow up, be man worthy of respect and she will respect you.
Modern Christianity has created the idea that Christian men must be “nice guys” all the time and always act “Christlike”
Yet they forget that Jesus often sharply rebuked people, twice flipped tables, and once even chased people with a whip.
Porn is a secret addiction
You can’t hide alcoholism
You can’t hide a drug addiction
You can’t hide a gambling addiction
Porn can be kept secret for years, silently destroying your life from the inside out.
Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Rid yourself of it now.
How I Quit Porn:
-Sought Help
-Stopped Lying
-Daily Journaling
-Began Lifting Weights
-Confessed My Actions
-Discovered Triggers
-Found Accountability
-Processed Emotions
-Established Routine
-Put My Faith in God
-Never EVER Gave Up
What the lockdowns have done to men:
-More Porn
-No sunlight
-Overeating
-No exercise
-Binge watching
What they should have done
-Eat clean
-Read books
-Walk outside
-Home workouts
-Have sex with the wife
Best way to improve married sex???:
-Get In Shape
-Be a Leader
-Build Intimacy
-Be Spontaneous
-Listen to each other
Notice "watch porn together" isn't anywhere on the list.
The wedding vows say, “til death do us part”
NOT
"Til one of us gets bored"
"Til I think you've changed"
"Til I fall out of love with you."
If you’re not in it for the long haul,
Don’t get into it in the first place.
Men, want to change your life?
Get rid of these things:
-Porn
-Weed
-Junk Food
-Video Games
-Your Dad Bod
-24 Hour News
And ADD these things:
-Sex
-Journaling
-Meditation
-Good Sleep
-Lifting Weights
-Reading Books
Your life will never be the same again