Let me tell y’all about my culture!
In Ijaw culture, this is called ‘bibifie’ which means ‘opening of the mouth’.
When your husband comes to seek your hand in marriage, he must spray you with money until you laugh b/c laughter is acceptance. Our marriages begin with laughter ❤️
Love has been so unfair to me. I try my best to be open, honest, stable, and present for the people I love. Sincerely, I do. Instead, I’m met with grief. When it isn’t grief, it’s manipulation. When it’s not manipulation, it’s deception. And often, I am met with nothing at all.
Kill this narrative with fire. A 19 year old is a 19 year old. Everyone’s experience as a 19 year old may differ but you cannot expect more maturity from one group simply because of their gender. This is harmful.
You simply cannot curate a luxury lifestyle in Lagos. The millions and billions you pay for overpriced amenities do not equate luxury whatsoever. Luxury is an amalgamation of ease, comfort, pleasure and elegance - and you’ll never be able to get it all here. You’re managing.
While in transit around VI, the bus in front of ours caught fire. There was a fuel tanker beside us so death was practically giggling at us. As we wanted to start running, the conductor locked the bus and said ‘Tah! Make everybody sidon. No be your mates dey die everyday?’ 😭😭
TW: Sexual Harassment
Today, June 1, 2023, Dimeji Ezeikel (@/dimejiezekiel on Instagram), a product designer at LemFi (
@UseLemfi
) sexually harassed me online.
As a woman who stands vehemently against sexual abuse in any form, I cannot sit back and let this slide.
For the Christians defending the silence of religious leaders, I want you to remember that both Jewish leaders and the Roman empire labelled Jesus a revolutionary rebel. Why? He spoke up. He challenged injustices. There’s no excuse not to speak up. Blessings and peace x.
Thank you, LemFi.
I’m grateful for the swiftness with which you handled my ordeal, and the kindness and empathy your team has offered me in this difficult time.
This is what zero tolerance for sexual harassment looks like.
Thank you again.
I can’t quite remember where I saw this but someone said that it made sense when people who are known to be vehemently nasty become religious because many religions absolve their followers of the grievances they’ve committed through repentance — which does nothing for victims.
Dye your hair = Ashawo
Refuse to smile back at weird man smiling at you = Ashawo
Talk = Ashawo
Smile = Ashawo
Get your nails done = Ashawo
Strap of your bra is visible = Ashawo
Buy contraceptives = Ashawo + How dare you?
You all will be well.
You live in a luxury serviced apartment on the island but when you come outside, it stinks. You drive luxury cars but they stay in repair shops for months on end because the mechanics haven’t been able to import the proper spare parts. And this is luxury? You’re delusional x.
@Tosbaby_
Girl, I know the rest of the passengers started shouting at him but I couldn’t see very well because the tears inna mi eyes had clouded my vision 😭
An icon and a fearless trailblazer. To say this is heartbreaking is to put it lightly. Rest in Power, Fola Francis. The doors you have kicked down for many will never be closed again 💔🕊️
Herbert Wigwe’s loss will be FELT. He had such amazing impact — in banking and finance, art, education, and philanthropy. I’m actually shaken to my core. This is such a tragedy. My goodness 💔💔💔💔💔
This was my daddy. A 6’5 German-Nigerian who just loved breakdancing with his kids in the living room, cooking, watching movies on a bean bag, and asking me to sing to him + play with his hair when he was tired. My daddy. Miss him SO MUCH 🥹🫶🏼
@Biliquis_X
SIS. I just started crying. I was 17 at the time and all I could think was ‘who send me come Lagos oh? Shey I for dey school? Or my mother’s house’. Everyone in the bus was shouting at the conductor. We were saved by the traffic light 😭
If you’re going to be away from your phone for a long time, you can schedule your protest tweets. Log into Twitter on a browser or with your laptop and schedule tweets with the
#EndSWAT
for every hour. We can’t afford to let this trend die.
Old Nollywood would really have you thinking that you could just go to University and make friends with the President’s daughter because she’s on your campus 🤣
Women deserve to be able to exist in safety, away from the sexual depravity of sick, sick men.
I was hesitant to speak up at first, as I am well aware of the vile scrutiny victims are often subjected to, particularly given my current mental state, however…
25. The Year of Power 🌊
Today, I become a woman. And I am blessed to become the woman I have always wanted to be.
Happy Birthday, Denise. The girl you were deeply reveres the woman, the goddess you have become.
P.S — This year? DEY GO HEAR WEHHHHHH 🧏🏼♀️🧏🏼♀️🧏🏼♀️
have been encouraged by my close friends to speak up.
Harassers and abusers thrive in the silence of their victims and I will be damned if I lend to their thriving.
Stay safe, ladies. He’s a fucking creep 🤮
Thank you all so much for the birthday wishes! Despite all the drama I experienced today, I had a truly amazing day. My phone is broken so I can’t reply any more messages! Thank you for all the love 💕✨
It’s product package familiarity. When you’ve been buying a product for some time, you’re not going to read the label every single time you go buy it from a store. Moreover, our brains generally fill in lots of blanks in day-to-day life, and this could’ve easily been one.
I was 5. I was wearing a turquoise shirt, brown khaki trousers and sandals. My hair was in pigtails.
Even then, a man thought it was okay to whip his dick out in front of me, ask me to touch it and put it in my mouth.
DO NOT FUCKING TELL ME IT IS WHAT YOU WEAR. DO NOT TRY IT.
This is in such poor taste. ‘Soro Soke’ isn’t a slang that caught on because it was cool. It was quite literally a protest cry from the End SARS protests. Does the sweat, tears and blood of Nigerian youths smell like sandalwood to you? Use your fucking head.
24. The Year of the Sun 🌞
The joy I feel in this moment is well deserved. The battles I have fought. The storms I have sailed. The grace of God in my life. Indescribable and incomparable.
Happy birthday, golden girl. Never forget the goddess that you are x 🥂
You women got tricked into thinking having jobs makes you more desirable to men. So because you want their validation so bad, y’all had us having to go to work 😭😭😭
Just to reiterate, if you’re protesting tomorrow, share your live location with someone you trust. Also, write down your blood group + any allergies you have on a visible piece of skin like your arm or wrist. In the event of an emergency, it could save you
#ENDSARSOPPRESSION
❤️
I have a running joke with my mum — I tell her that she’s raised neither my siblings nor I to be able to interact with the world at large.
We’re too honest. Too kind. To open-hearted. But honestly, we’re just like her 🤍
Happy Birthday. I love you deeply, my mothership 🚀
Do you understand how much of a loser you have to be to post a video where a person clearly feels good about themselves, and open them up for trolling because they’re fat? Why are fat people expected to be miserable about the way they look?
And while I believe in the concepts of grace and repentance, there are many who use it as a shield to deflect being interrogated for their track record of bad behaviour. God may have forgiven you and you may have made peace with your mistakes, but I will always be wary of you.