Interesting things can happen at sea. There have been ships filled w/ • Nudists. ie Non-sexual bare living • Swingers When I heard about the Swinger’s ship—how the venues were cleared & beds put in & lined next to each other— my next clear thought was: … ‘Parasite cleanse’

Morning cuddles Him: I have to get up. Don’t make me push you away… Me: I’m in a ‘push away mood’. Do it… 💛 *laughs & giggles - as I’m being pushed away!* Happy 🙂

I have to say more… ⬆️ With sexual healing like this, it helps if a person ensures it’s an internalized felt experience - processed within. The problem comes when we slip into *our attachment need* so strongly that balance is lost between our life priorities, purpose & life

Complaining: 1. A signal that we require leadership from someone else 2. A signal that we have disconnected from divine Trust sooo much,that we have lost the ability to shape our desire into a question … & ASK PROPERLY

A lot of sexual problems come from NOT KNOWING DIFFERENT WAYS TO ADDRESS & PREVENT ANXIETY before & during sex The cycle is: ANXIETY > ⬆️ likelihood of unsatisfactory sex > COMPOUNDING ANXIETY > Sex becomes another threat to the body-mind ➡️Got to learn the relationship

In throat holds, you can add a therapeutic little jiggle with the thumb & fingers right on the sides— if you’re focusing on vagus nerve activation for them. Just don’t let the relationship dynamic drop. 3/

Side note: Throat holding doesn’t have to involve pressure or squeezing to still make an impact. Gentle placement of the hand there may be enough 2/

In my book, ‘sexual healing’ relates to anything involved in our arousal response, or our whole body & mind relationship to the opposite sex. • A beautiful smile can be sexual healing • A deep eye gaze can be sexual healing • Existing-as-your-sex & feeling safe can be sexual

If you understand the differences, choking in sex play is done either as: air-blocking, blood flow-blocking, or power play (psychological) ~~~ {beware, sh!tpost} Me these days with throat play: 1. “That’s it, integrate all that sexual energy deep into your vagus nerve

A tip for shut-down or overly-stimulated nipples: *Large, slow & attuned concentric circles of the nipples * You don’t even have to make it in & onto the nipples the first few sessions. 2/

Nipple pleasuring your man while traveling Is a fairly acceptable & hide-able option on a train or plane…! Tiny finger movements at his nipple, I’m just the right ways, are a simple & sweet way to increase bonding & build oxytocin together. {Don’t worry if your man can’t feel

So I did. & there was a moment when something was building & I felt ‘ohh oohh… …I’m not so sure if I can continue without something rippling out… 💥 & potentially getting him or I kicked off the plane” So I stopped Am I an expert & know what is always going to happen in a

Then a moment where I felt inexplicably drawn to have my hand off his body, in front of his heart chakra. In energetic connection. It was a weird & bold ask! I loved his reply: “you can do whatever you want as long as it doesn’t get us kicked off this plane” 2/

I’m remembering a flight where I sat next to a man who kept jittering his leg… & I suggested he apply a tantric approach & consider it a form of energy that could be redirected through the body — like sexual energy. 1/

A single male friend of mine has been paying for cuddle sessions till he finds a new partner. We met for a cuddle session together & I experienced how he runs his energy (like me) & his level of care & awareness. “Why are you still paying other people for this?!” I said. I’m

A lot of people seeking sexual healing help are in various states of trauma or neurodivergence. So don’t be a renegade fckboi, be a knowledgeable, capable, loving healer. Clear up your own needs & acknowledge & work through your own shadow motivations. Because the world

A big issue with renegade sexual ‘healers’ is rushing to next levels of physical intimacy without awareness of ‘freeze’ or ‘fawn’ states! “Well she didn’t say ‘no!’” is not a good enough response from a mature sexual healer. A renegade fckboi is often too invested in reaching

Do u most need to self-regulate, or to co-regulate with a person who feels safe? It can depend on if we are holding open a ‘door’ in our energy to another person, or if we have our ‘door’ fully closed, circulating our energy within ourselves. Regardless, we’re all human…

[Foodgasms] A note on pleasure states from food: I noticed a man who LOVES his food was focused on shoveling-it-in to access his pleasure… 🫤 I can’t do that & access foodgasm experiences My approach is more reverent More of a gradual activation… …through my heart center,