Louisa Whitney 💙(She/Her)
@LouisaWhitney
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Family Mediator, PPC & trainer. Passionate about peaceful separation, good food, farm shops, yoga and shopping local. Give something back. #dailygratitude
Dorking, Surrey.
Joined October 2011
Talking in #mediation can seem a challenge. It's easier to hide behind other's words. But with the right tools good changes can be made.
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Compassionate is the 4th C of effective communication and often the hardest. This is compassion in its simplest form. Seeing the person through your child's eyes as their other parent can help to bring a little more compassion than you might have for your ex. #singleparents
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The third C of effective communication is Conscious and this graphic sums up what we mean. Too often important conversations start by accident without each person having had chance to think about how they want the discussion to go. Or it happens at the wrong place or time.
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The second of our 4 Cs of effective communication is constructive. This is often about the language you use and how you approach conversations. It's not about anybody changing who they are. Co-parents who take the time to ensure they each feel heard often fare better.
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If your new year aim is to have a better and more peaceful relationship with co-parent then follow us here for our tips. We talk about effective communication being in line with the 4 Cs: Calm Constructive Conscious; and Compassionate This graphic neatly explains Calm.
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Can any followers of this account help us with finding academics who have studied the impacts of #domesticabuse on children?
Bit of help please? We are looking for academics who have looked in-depth at the outcomes for children impacted by living in households with parental #domesticviolence #domesticabuse Any names spring to mind? Many thanks...
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Louisa, Emma and Michelle would like to wish everyone a Happy New Year. Thank you to everyone who has supported us this year. If your Christmas hasn't gone as well as you would have liked what can you change next year? What can you do differently? #familymediation
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Who is up for a little laugh in the dark mist of #separation? Sometimes it's helpful to plant the seeds of your new life and centre these around small things you won't miss, or small things you'd like to do that you couldn't before. So what seeds are you planting? #divorce
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It's not easy facing your 1st (or even your 9th) Christmas without your children. Making a plan for what you're going to do helps you to fill the time and distract yourself a little from missing them. But it also reassures your children that you have things to do & will be OK.
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They really don't have to. There is a way that is focused on effective communication & productive discussions. You don't need to be super friendly. Consider approaching a family mediator in the New Year for help. #copingwithdivorce #lifeafterseparation #familymediation
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Very grateful to this amazing bunch of professionals for the sterling work they did for the awards. Could not have done it without them!
A huge #ThankYou to the #NMA2024 #JudgingPanel, led by Chair Rosemary Jackson KC and Deputy Chair @KandolaAmrik, for their dedication in selecting the #winners. Your hard work and expertise are greatly appreciated!
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If you're thinking of working with us in 2025 (or referring someone you're working with) then it helps to know what our clients say about us. This is why we share anonymous quotes on #feedbackFriday. #divorce #separation
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Happy Christmas everyone. 🤶🎄🎅🏽🎅🏽
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You can also claim up to £500 from the government towards your mediation costs to talk about issues relating to children. We can explain how. #divorce #separation #coparenting
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If you're thinking you will be dealing with #separation related issues in 2025 then it helps to think in stages, & to break down big tasks into manageable steps. Identifying the help you'll need is a good first step. Discussion will be essential to identify potential solutions.
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If you're beating yourself up today about all the things you haven't yet done or where you could have been "more" then we invite you to: Pause Breathe Look at all the good things you've done and are grateful for AND THEN go about your day being kinder and softer to yourself.
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We are delighted that our volunteer mediator, Polly Walker, was named as Mediation Trainer of the Year at the National Mediation Awards last night held at the Houses of Parliament. Well done Polly, we are so immensely proud of you and it was thoroughly deserved. @AwardsMediation
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Wars of words in a #divorce can leave you feeling drained & short on time, energy and possibly money. There is another way and that's via #familymediation which can help you find better & communication as well as solutions. This free download may help https://t.co/21hRjSzj6X
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The 2024 National #Mediation Awards were held at the House of Commons last night & were a huge success! 👏🏻 An enormous thanks to: our host, the talented Joanna Gosling, former #BBC News Chief Anchor, our independent judging panel & our sponsors. 🎉 Congrats to our 18 winners!
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Yesterday I said something about Kylie Minogue and my daughter said “who’s that”. I’ve failed as a parent, haven’t I?
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