People disliking your boundaries is NORMAL. Keep setting them. Rabbits dislike fences around your garden. Doesn’t make them bad rabbits. Doesn’t mean you dismantle the fences. Let people get used to the you that values your garden.

Practice pleasure. You've practiced survival all this time, and look how good you are at it. 💜

There was beauty along the road before the sun went down. Sharing to be kind to your nervous system. 🧠

Stop calling people resilient without calling out the systems that force them to be resilient or die.

Grief has quieted me. Against my will. . That 2nd part is the REAL post. #grief

Added to my death plan: People I don’t want at my funeral or touching me if I’m incapacitated. If this matters to you, tell the people you love. My boundaries won’t die when I do. 🖤🫶🏾

Sharing because i think a beauty that shines at night is to be celebrated.

Grind if y’all want to. I do enough hard things. With every breath I can, I’ll be gentler with me. 🫶🏾

You don’t always have to be “doing the work.” Sometimes “the work” is resting. Surviving is ok, too. #healing #surviving

“But that’s still your family…” Do y’all understand some ppl’s family/parents are unhealthy at best and some are downright evil? Some ppl were trafficked by their “family.” Ask me how I know. Set whatever boundaries you need to this holiday season. idc if they’re “family.” 🏠

WHAT IS THIS??? @Apple count yo days!!!

A reminder that “I’m still here” is a valid testimony. “Making it” is no small thing. 💜

I already know how strong I am. I wanna know how soft I can be. I’ve experienced harshness. How gentle can this world be with me? How much goodness can my soul tolerate? These are the new goals. How much joy can one stand? How much peace?

Slow down and rest your mind today. 🙏🏾👑

I love you, Black men. I want gentleness for you. I want wholeness for you. I want goodness for you. I want softness for you. I want peace for you. I want rest for you. I want joy for you. Àṣẹ and amen.

I already know how strong I am. I wanna know how soft I can be. I’ve experienced harshness. How gentle can this world be with me? How much goodness can my soul tolerate? These are the new goals. How much joy can one stand? How much peace?

@othingstodo_com No, we were really outside, in ditches, lakes, quarries, construction sites, basements, getting molested, surviving on Now-n-laters, all the things with no parental supervision or expectations to even be back home until dark. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@Arcfunmi I used my doctorate in clinical neuropsychology to design the Trauma Recovery eCourse iiiii needed when stuck in complex trauma. eCourse here: https://t.co/Spv0JX8MPo

There IS inoculation to addiction, and that is connection. Secure attachments, knowing we’re loved and cared for, being safe enough to connect with others—to love well and be loved well in return… This provides a buffer against any harm and is the substrate for resilience. 🧠

Excellent PSA. Please learn your partner. Be honest with your partner. When aroused, the vaginal canal stretches and elongates to accommodate thangs, even when they are thangin. If she’s running, you may need to improve your stroke and learn how to provide pleasure.

“Let’s get out and VOTE to SAVE THESE BABIES!!!” –white Christian women who had all their abortions in the 90s and are now in perimenopause America still falling for this is bananas.