Have you ever lost all respect for someone? Like you don’t hate them, but you don’t feel the need to associate yourself or say anything to them anymore...
Here’s the reality.
None of us are easy to be with.
We all suffer from something.
So when you meet someone who is willing to stay committed to understanding you and actually wants to grow with you, don’t let lame shit like your pride and ego get to you.
Real is rare.
A lot of people think intimacy is just about sex
But intimacy is about truth
When you realize you can tell someone your truth
When you can show yourself to them
When you stand in front of them and their response is “you’re safe with me”
That’s intimacy
Kissing with no passion sucks.
Sex with no passion sucks.
Conversation with no passion sucks.
Career with no passion sucks.
Life with no passion sucks.
Stay away from people who always consider you expressing how you feel as you arguing or being extra.
It’s called gaslighting.
Toxic people do that so they don’t have to take accountability for their own behavior.
Remember this
There is nothing wrong with u
you have patterns to unlearn, New behaviors to embody, & wounds to heal
But there is nothing wrong with core of u & who u are
U are unlearning generations of harm & remembering love
Something will always bring u back
It takes time
Being in a committed relationship is so damn fun if it’s done right.
You literally hang out with your best friend all fucking day and never stop loving each other.
You relax on a plane, without knowing the pilot.
You relax in a ship, even though you don’t know the captain.
You relax on a bus, even though you don’t know the driver.
Why don’t you relax in life knowing that the universe is in control?
Trauma keeps you in a loop of your past.
You’ll be 25 with an 8 year old mindset and process.
That’s why you people please, or over extend yourself or stay places longer than you should have.
Your inner child is screaming saying “finally someone loves me”
An unhealed person can find offense in pretty much anything someone else does.
A healed person understands that the actions of others has absolutely nothing to do with them.
Each day you get to decide which one you will be.
Easy to spot a yellow car when you’re looking for a yellow car.
Easy to spot opportunity when you’re always thinking of opportunity.
Easy to spot reasons to be mad when you’re always thinking of being mad.
You become what you constantly think about.
Watch yourself.
When you choose a life partner you’re choosing a lot of things..
Your parenting partner.
Someone who will deeply influence your children.
Your travel companion.
Your eating companion.
Your therapist..
Someone whose day you’re willing to hear about 18,000 times.
Intense.
I’m not shy
I’m a noticer
I am a thinker.
I’m an observer
I’m not stuck up
I’m not anti-social
I treasure my solitude
I’m not a fan of small talk
I prefer a few close fiends
I am reserved, until I’m not
I appreciate true connection
If we connect, you matter to me
Self control is strength. Calmness is mastery. You have to get to a point where your mood doesn’t shift based on insignificant actions based on someone else. Don’t allow others to control the direction of your life. Don’t allow your emotions to overpower your intelligence.