So due to some convos that I’ve had the last few weeks with people, I feel the need to clarify a bit on who I am and how I play and engage with other people around kink. I’m a bit different - a bit softer, and I’m not “readily available” like some other folks.

Watched Pillion. I was correct that it wasn’t the movie I thought it would be. That’s all I’ll say about that.

Someone got an end of locktober mummification the other weekend. (I’m just late on posting it).

Loved the table that sat across from me at breakfast. Neck chains and padlocks. Mr S Leather shirt. Leather pride converse. 💯

Hot take: I fail to see the difference between Andrew Tate Man-o-sphere content, and an awful lot of BDSM “This is how a master and slave should be” content. 🤷🏻‍♂️☕️

I am absolutely a hater, but some people need to realize that their “A-list Kink Influencer” status didn’t come from hard work. You’re in your early-mid 20s, white (or a model minority), and skinny. It was handed to you, and in 5 years it’ll get handed to someone else. Chill.

I wanna see the nut. Where’s the genuine struggling? Where’s the layers of gear? Where’s the experimentation? I feel like commodified fetish is lacking in passion. There’s few people creating content up to par imho; props to the guys with 8-10+ minute videos on their OF/JFFs.

Sour take: Bondage porn was hotter when it was a category on Xtube (rip🪽🪦) or on private websites. People put in effort. Tumblr, then later Twitter, ruined it imho. Now it’s all 20 second videos, no action, passionless, generic, and the OF/JFFs are 3 minutes of the same 🤷🏻‍♂️

Hmmmm....now that's a thought. I wonder what closets in the apartment could be used for this.....

Even glass doors getting in on Locktober.

Hello, Chicago. 😉

I think I need to look into getting a cot like this.....

Charlatans, grifters, liars, cheats, thieves, abusers, narcissists, egomaniacs, shit stirrers, jealous people, greedy people - they all exist right there at the top of our “following” list. Popularity doesn’t negate these qualities. Don’t give it a pass because you’re horny.

I’ve also seen people use their follower counts as defense/justification. “I wouldn’t have elevnty billion followers if I was a bad person”, is very much a mentality that exists. Also leveraging a large following in order to run subtle smear campaigns also exists.

People will put on rose colored glasses and jump to the defense of big names in the “community” so quickly. I think it’s because they go “I like this person, and if they’re criticized, then I am too, by extension. I have to defend this, in order to defend myself.” Stop it.

Especially if you’re what I would consider a “professional” dom, sub, or kinkster. Attending every kink event, playing/fucking with all the A-listers, having an OF/JFF and doing a ton of collabs - you will still find absolute shitgibbons at the “top”.

Follower count and how well known you are in the “community” is in no way a solid indicator of emotional intelligence or your quality of character. Hot people, hot photos, hot videos, active posting - none of that means “good smart person with solid ethics.”

I don’t care.

We still haven’t met, you know 😉

Like if I’m gonna pay (and I’m 110% willing), I hope for a liiiitle bit more quality and effort and variety. That’s all. 🫠

I also triple hate when someone is making new content, but there’s no orgasms. I wanna see the fucking nut. Silent kink videos of someone lying there, or overproduced fake AF moaning/struggling, or it’s just 18 videos of the same exact thing… 🙄 Please. I beg y’all. Step it up.