NEW ON THE BLOG: For this ten-year anniversary of my blog, I am publishing a new piece about shame. This is the best way to honor my blog today because the more we talk about this, the less shame we carry.

When we are living a grounded, authentic life, consistency isn't always in the cards.

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I was set up in childhood. I was taught to believe I could not be happy. I was taught that life was not to be trusted. But I know I can't stop thinking that way by hating that I think that way.

Fears are hard to face because of the truth they hold. But let your parts share their experiences, expressions and evidence. As you listen, you will find yourself taking new small steps in new directions and you won’t feel paralyzed to do it.

VIRTUAL WORKSHOP: Childhood Trauma stops 'normal' development and teaches survivor skills that leave us ill equipped for adult life. Inner Parts writing shows you how to find balance and peace. Join me and start healing from trauma.

Joy is complicated for survivors of trauma. It isn’t a simple decision to be made. It never was. But if we can focus on how our inner parts try to stop our most authentic expression, we can get back to that core self and the joy we were meant to feel.

When we can build awareness of how we are holding shame-based beliefs in our unconscious, we can work with it and release it through emotional journaling. And that can bring us back to the truth. We are not to blame for what happened.

We all love happy endings. But my inner parts can have intense responses to happy endings in movies. It can bring up grief and anger about what didn’t happen for me. My new freedom fighter had a lot to say about Troop Zero.

Recovery is incredibly confusing. We can feel great one day and awful the next. It is a roller coaster ride of inner experiences. But if we can detach from the fear-based responses, we can learn what the stages of recovery are really trying to tell us.

In recovery, we learn who we aren't and that is so important. But it can be more difficult to discover who we are. As we get to know our freedom fighters, we can move past the fear and come back to our authentic selves.

VIRTUAL PARENTING WORKSHOP: Find out how you can free yourself from your childhood trauma and parent your children in a way that allows them to become who they were born to be. #betterparenting

NEW ON THE BLOG: Anxiety doesn’t have to be a nebulous cloud of dysfunction. There are reasons your anxiety is stepping forward. Your awareness of your inner parts and their interactions can help you find the answers.

Some days, it all seems to be pointless. Those are the days where this work matters the most. If we can recognize the emotional flashback and write from the past, we can inch our way forward instead of staying stuck.

There is a way to step out of your fear-based survival strategies. Watch for how survival is ruling your life. Bring it to your awareness. You are here to do more than survive. Your freedom fighters have another plan for you.

Relationships are difficult to navigate after trauma. The relational patterns seem like they will never end. But we can find balance as we learn inner awareness and break our cycles and find healing in relationship.

It is time for change. It is time to question the fear-based choices of everyone around us. The fear can’t be in charge anymore. The grounded adult self can guide us to a new life.

VIRTUAL WORKSHOP: The experiences of your past are impacting your life today whether you remember them or not. When buried memories come to the surface and you can view them in the light of today you can decide the impact they will make in the future.

Living up to society’s standards while hiding our emotional pain is not the life we are supposed to be striving toward. It is time to question our understanding of the right way to live. Those glory days weren’t so glorious.

After a childhood of trauma, it often feels better to go it alone. But we also have to watch our urges to isolate and discount the value in community. Balance is the key to healing from relational trauma.

I was set up in childhood. I was taught to believe I could not be happy. I was taught that life was not to be trusted. But I know I can't stop thinking that way by hating that I think that way.