Yom HaZikaron ๐ฏ๏ธ
I spoke tonight, in public for the first time, about my beautiful cousin Dalya Lemkus, who was killed in a terror attack 8 years ago.
I'm not going to share all my words here, (feel free to DM me) but I want to talk briefly about Yom HaZikaron as a whole.
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My uncle sent me a note on whatsapp this week, that the families who have lost loved ones donโt need Yom HaZikaron. They live Yom HaZikaron every second of every day.
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He said:
The people of Israel are the ones who need it - to remind them of the huge loss of fallen soldiers and civilians killed "Al Kiddush Hashem" - because they were Jews living in the Promised Land - the State of Israel.
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Halacha has a mourning process for immediate family. They sit shiva, shloshim, a year, yartzheits. And at the end of that all, as my uncle says, they never truly get over it at all.
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But for the next level of relations, thereโs no process.
Thereโs no defined mourning process for cousins, for friends, for neighbors, for countries.
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During the Shiva we went to the house almost every day, but we werenโt the ones sitting on the low chairs. We went to support, to help, to make sure that the abundance of food was given was available and cleaned up and the trash taken out.
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But our mourning had to happen on our own. We can look at the numbers and say 24,068 people have been killed. We can try and calculate how many family units have been uprooted.
But the larger ripple effects of each and every loss are immeasurable.
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Yom HaZikaron gives us, as individuals & as a nation, a way to process our losses.
It gives us an opportunity to reread those words that we wrote years ago; to revisit those wounds that we buried to be able to cope.
It's a space to feel our losses - in a collective hug.
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@BenNiderberg
Yes, I absolutely feel that. I spoke, and it was good to speak. But I still feel that I've said absolutely nothing compared to what needs to be said.
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@ldkop
Dalyโs was a beautiful human being. Kind. Sweet. My son and her little brother were best friends. Hagai was like a son to me. It was shocking and tragic. Iโll never forget the moment I heard. The devastation. My 6 year old crying โWho will make them Shabbat?โ๐ข
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